Love and Respect

At the request of our fellow-blogger Livingsword, today I’m addressing the concept of “women desiring love as the driving core force from their man and men desiring respect from their woman as the center of their needs”. And even though my experience is ill; here’s the result of what I’ve observed:

Let’s take a glimpse at Nature first, focusing on the lion and the lioness: the lion provides security for the clan and ensures the continuance of the species; the lioness hunts (providing, thus, nurture) and watches over her breed.
If we were to apply this to the human world, we’d have the following image: the man providing the same security to the clan (in this case, through his job); and the woman would keep “hunting”, while ensuring the stability of the home. It sounds simple, doesn’t it?

A few years ago, I defended that love only should not be women’s driving force, since nowadays they’re totally independent, focused on their careers, and they may have kids whenever they want (by any means necessary). However, this was nothing but teenager utopia and illusion.
Years went by and I’ve realised that no matter what women do, say or think, deep down, they all want a man to love and be loved by.

Love is everything to women; i.e. love is the foundation of their life.
There may not be a lot of financial resources, but if a woman feels really loved she’ll walk that extra mile to transform her home into Eden.
Women look for emotional intelligence in a man: a partner that within his imperfections is perfect; a man that being an adult has not lost the child within; a soldier that coming back from his campaign, as tired as he might be, never ceases to be generous; a male that accepts to share with his woman the government of their family and, although disagreeing with the way she manages the economy of the home, he does her justice for he understands that it’s not always easy to be a manager, a wife, a mother, a lover, a friend, a nurse, a cook, a cleaning-lady, a teacher, and a hairdresser.

Men are looking for a woman who’ll love and respect them.
A man is very pragmatic when it comes to love, cause he feels loved if he can visualise, or have, a life (next to the one he loves) where: the house is always clean and neat, laundry done, children under control (if any) and sex on a regular basis.
Definition of Respect (accordingly to Collins Cobuild English Language Dictionary): esteem, value, honour, fulfill, reverence, regard.
To the low-medium man respect (paid by the one he loves) means: obedience, submission, humiliation, and all the other possible inferiorities.
To the educated, cultivated and well brought up man respect is something that must be earned (it cannot be demanded); therefore, the kind of respect he expects from his woman is the appreciation of his Ego.
The latter, is the type of man for whom his woman will do anything so that he can be successful: she’ll work for him in the backstage, for his success is the family’s success; and she commits herself to be there through thick and thin. This is love!

Well, Livingsword, I hope this simple thought has met your expectations.

Cheers!